Your recession has hit. Through these posts I've tried to establish, yes, how bad it is and no, you are not alone. But the truth is, 90% of the process feels pretty damn lonely. The phone might ring but never at the moment the din gets loudest in our heads. That's where today's post comes in.

Who's on Facebook? If you are, you too are enjoying the latest, greatest guilty pleasure: "25 Random Things About..." I have not completed a list, but without fail I finish reading yours with the biggest smile on my face. Douglas Quenqua said in his NY Times piece about the "25 Things" phenomenon (2/5/09) that it's anybody's guess why this particular note has caught on and spread so much faster than anything else on Facebook to date. It may be true introspection, an opportunity for verbosity or simply unapologetic narcissism... I have my theory and it fits perfectly with The New Now's reason for being: it is Community. When I read your lists of "25 Random Things" I feel close to you and proud of you, I laugh with you and feel much less isolated thanks to your confessions which are seemingly written just for me to read.

I know not what time of day or what state of mind brings you to this post, but I want to hear from you. So that there is more for us to read and, in the spirit of "25 Random Things", so we can learn about each other while we share what makes it easier to get through each day.

Welcome to...


Add your tried and true Make It Better's by clicking on the highlighted "Comments" below this post.

Scented Candles from GAP (last purchased at $2.99)- Light one next to where you're sitting and take it with you when you pace

"Force It" Walks - Make an "appointment" (e.g. in 15 minutes...) with your Partner and get outside together. Takes the place of a pricier date night and forces conversation, don't know how, but always works.

Good, dark, grocery store chocolate after dinner, no matter what, a promise to you from the Universe that good things await if you make it through the day

  • Charlotte: Ghirardhelli Bliss Intense Mint ($2.99)
  • Suzy: Dove Silky Smooth with Roasted Almonds ($3.53)
Scrabble with Partner, friend, children

Set up DVR (or Tivo) and study the day's media. Make a plan for what you get to watch each evening and record others for a later viewing. There is so much good TV out there right now! Some of my favorites:

  • Damages (FX)
  • Weed (HBO)
  • Big Love (HBO)
  • Brothers and Sisters (ABC)
  • House (Fox)
  • Mad Men (AMC)
Read a Blog. They are everywhere. Avoid the narcissistic ones and head for what helps you feel part of your particular world. I like:


Please don't wait, add to The New Now.


Anonymous said...

Two favorites of mine that are FREE are:
- Take a daily yoga class via free video podcast at www.yogatoday.com
- Listen to FREE music at Pandora.com

sboyd said...

Buy: This I Believe The Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Mem and Women ($14). This book features 80 essayists - from the famous to the unknown. Great for when you have short bits of time. Try reading some of the essays to your children (one on one) and see what they believe about themselves!

Anonymous said...

The local YMCA is my godsend and only indulgence. While there is a monthly rate, for a family it is doable and they have a pool, a great gym and wonderful exercise classes, plus...and this is the biggest part of what makes it all happen for me, FREE child care where the kids do projects and love to play. At least it is working for me know while the kids are younger and it is a special treat for them. Would love to try the other kinds of spaces, such as yoga and pilates that abound where I live, but can't justify it...can't do it...and, really, don't need to when the Y is there. Plus, it is an amazing space for creating community. Something that is even more essential at this point and time. (posted by Laine in Northampton, MA...no blogger id yet)

Charlotte said...

hi mommy this is cassie,
i like your blog, good luck with it!!!

P.S. the recipes sound yummy: )